1. The Relationship Scorecard
Why It’s Toxic: The relationship scorecard develops over time because one or both people in a relationship use past wrongdoings in order to try and justify current righteousness
2. Dropping “Hints” and Other Passive-Aggression
Why It’s Toxic: Because it shows that you two are not comfortable communicating openly and clearly with one another.
3. Holding the Relationship Hostage
Why It’s Toxic: It’s emotional blackmail and it creates tons of unnecessary drama.
4. Blaming Your Partner For Your Own Emotions
Why It’s Toxic: Blaming our partners for our emotions is a subtle form of selfishness, and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries.
5. Displays of “Loving” Jealousy
Why It’s Toxic: It’s controlling and manipulative. It creates unnecessary drama and fighting. It transmits a message of a lack of trust in the other person.
6. Buying the Solutions to Relationship Problems
Why It’s Toxic: Not only does it brush the real problem under the rug (where it will always re-emerge from even worse the next time), but it sets an unhealthy precedent within the relationship.
Interesting and useful article for all of us who wish to let go and avoid toxic relationships now and in the future.